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Member Name:azxserphx
Date/Time:5/17/26 1:37 PM
Subject:OT: What I Recently Learned
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The Pinterest posts have struck a chord with me. Not only is giving/doing for others a sign of love but receiving is as well. I just got home from the hospital after spending 4 days in intensive care getting a pacemaker put in. I had many friends asking if they could help us but I kept saying no we could manage just fine. Well, I can't so I've begun accepting help from people. It's a blessing to them to do God's work and it's a blessing to me to accept their loving kindness. I've been very independent all my life but today I feel blessed by friends who are more than willing to help me when I need it.

Bette
Denver


Member Name:Patti1971
Date/Time:5/17/26 1:41 PM
Subject:Re: OT: What I Recently Learned
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I know what you mean Bette. After my husband passed a couple of years ago, I have had to ask for help myself. I have no living relatives so my neighbors have stepped in and have helped me when I’ve needed it. I never thought I would ever need help, but I do at times.

My best to you for a quick and peaceful recovery.

Patti
Maine


Member Name:dfc4385
Date/Time:5/17/26 2:48 PM
Subject:Re: OT: What I Recently Learned
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It's like the Parable of the Good Samaritan - if you need clothing, food, shelter, I can help. But if I am the person in the ditch, I must put out my hand and ask for help. And that is sooo hard!


Member Name:ElisaM
Date/Time:5/17/26 3:48 PM
Subject:Re: OT: What I Recently Learned
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Takes a while to change and accept help. While I've always been happy to help others I too, was very independent and very reluctant to ask for help. But, when I needed a ride for cataract surgery and mentioned it while playing mah jongg, a casual friend at the next table immediately offered to drive me. She related that when her ride fell through for her procedure a 90+ year old member of the group gave her a ride. That worked so well that a few years later I told friends at my bridge game that I needed a ride for a colonoscopy and other casual friends offered.

And, after that a good friend mentioned that us single gals that don't have family nearby need to help each other out. We committed to help each other and that small gesture has greatly enhanced our friendship. It opened the door for me to feel comfortable asking her and others for rides. Since then, she's given me rides to other medical procedures, and I've driven her and other friends to physical therapy, medical appointments and to/from the airport. We also get together occasionally for BBQs, eating out or spending a summer afternoon at a friend's condo's swimming pool.


Member Name:Janinaz
Date/Time:5/17/26 3:53 PM
Subject:Re: OT: What I Recently Learned
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Bette, I have been wondering about you - haven't seen posts from you. Hope the pacemaker works well for you. Glad you have good friends around to help. Accept it and pay it back,if you can.🤗

Jan


Member Name:EllieC
Date/Time:5/17/26 6:39 PM
Subject:Re: OT: What I Recently Learned
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Bette, I'm glad to see you post. Hope your recovery goes quickly and that the pacemaker helps you to feel well.


Member Name:Bubbalou
Date/Time:5/17/26 8:55 PM
Subject:Re: OT: What I Recently Learned
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You have opened my eyes with this post. I've always been independent, never asked for help, did what I wanted, when I wanted. I cringed at the thought of needing help & it felt like I was taking advantage of someone if I ever asked for help. You have given me cause to think about this in another way.

Lois


Member Name:gabbycat
Date/Time:5/17/26 9:15 PM
Subject:Re: OT: What I Recently Learned
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Yeah, I have a relative who always gives out little presents whenever we see her, and expects to fawn all over her for giving us stuff.

But if we give her stuff, she isn't a good receiver. Hides stuff, leaves the room with it, ignores the bag and keeps talking, etc.

I don't get it. (It's not like we give her weird stuff either.)

We were always taught to be both a good giver AND a good receiver.


Member Name:Kate
Date/Time:5/17/26 10:47 PM
Subject:Re: OT: What I Recently Learned
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Gabby,
Maybe she thinks that she will owe someone something and that is why she gives well but doesn’t receive well.


Member Name:gabbycat
Date/Time:5/17/26 10:59 PM
Subject:Re: OT: What I Recently Learned
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Kate, please explain more...........


Member Name:bacongirl
Date/Time:5/17/26 11:47 PM
Subject:Re: OT: What I Recently Learned
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I couldn't agree more. When my late DH was on home hospice some neighbors offered help but I said I could manage. My DS and DIL, same. One day I was completely worn out and our neighbor Chris, a really good guy, knocked on the door and sad I think you need a break. So he came and stayed for an hour while I just went to the mall, went to the food court and sat and had lunch and just enjoyed being out on my own.

After that I did reach out once in awhile.


Member Name:MaryF
Date/Time:5/18/26 0:01 AM
Subject:Re: OT: What I Recently Learned
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My former boss used to say that you should accept people's offer of help or you may be robbing them of a blessing.
MaryF




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